Moving can be one of life’s most stressful events, but also very exciting. It can be especially difficult for children who have difficulty managing the immediate upheaval in their lives. They are often concerned about their usual routines and current friends.
Here are some tips on how you can help your children to accept the move, see the benefits of the move and prepare for the move.
Point out to your child that lots of children move with their families every year – the move is a part of life. The trick is to give your children some perspective on the event; why do you need to move? How will the move to improve your life? Maybe you moving to a larger home or closer friends.
Children tend to focus on the feelings associated with the move, while the adults focus on logistics. Nevertheless, it is often the children who are the easiest to make new friends – even if you move away from a big city like Stockholm to a new, smaller town.
An important strategy is to get the whole family in the process so that no one feels left out. Keep everyone informed about the plans and activities associated with the move. It is good to let the kids be involved in a part of decision making. Take e.g. with them when you’re house and ask them what features are most important to them in a new home.
If you can not take with them, make sure to display the images so that they can visualize their new home and feel part.
Children are often most afraid of the unknown. The more you can do in order to familiarize them with the new home and the community you move, the better. If the move is to another city, be sure to gather as much information as possible and share it with your children. Find out things that you know will interest them, such as football, recreational activities and more.
If it’s not too far to go, you can also go and watch the local attractions Show off your new workplace and other interesting places so your children can feel more comfortable with the move.
After the move, it is important to restore the routines as quickly as possible, particularly in terms of leisure activities. It will certainly take your family time to adjust, but to establish procedures are key to feel at home.
Keep a close eye on how your children adapt after the move. In some cases it can take a while before they feel rooted.